When you meet a girl for the first time, you’re not meeting the real her. You’re meeting her representative, the image she tries to project to men she doesn’t know. Females put up fronts for any number of reasons (just as men do), whether it’s due to vanity, insecurity, shyness, or because they don’t want to reveal their attraction to you.
Using Conversation Control techniques (such as Hypotheticals) is how you get them to open up and reveal their true nature, which then enables you to bond with them.
As a Mack, you want to cut through the facade and get to know “the real her” as soon as possible. Before you invest a significant amount of time in her, you must determine whether she’s going to be worth your efforts. The Mack doesn’t hesitate to make a polite exit if he’s knows he’s not going to mesh with a particular woman. You must maintain the attitude that your options are limitless. For Macks, they truly are.
In this article, we’ll identify certain categories of problematic women. Each gives off warning signals, or “red flags,” which you need to be able to pickup on. Just because a woman falls under one of the following categories doesn’t mean you should kick her to the curb. Some of these women may be fine for one-night stands or casual relationships, or as a friend to accompany you when you go out. But definitely think twice before making any type of commitment.
The Money Chick. The signals are usually clear: the designer outfits, the jewelry, the hot (often surgically enhanced) body she loves to show off. She acts like she’s above every guy in the room, but wants to be the center of attention.
The Money Chick wants men who will treat her to the finer things. If you’re not prepared to drop serious loot, she’s not interested. Even if you do write her the proverbial “blank check,” she might still entertain offers from other guys who are down to spend cash on her. As long as she looks as good as she does, there will never be any shortage of guys willing to do so.
You can bust out special Hypotheticals to see how money-oriented she is. Tell her a story along these lines:
YOU (as you check your cell phone): “My friend Mike keeps texting me. He’s been totally depressed all day.”
YOU: “He had a date last night with a girl. But when he showed up at her house to take her to dinner, she took one look at the car he was driving and said ‘on second thought, maybe this isn’t such a good idea.’ She dissed him because he drives a beat-up car.”
One Night Stand Chick. She’s a bad girl and wants you to know it. She makes sexual references even though she just met you. She makes frequent physical contact: touching you, brushing up against you, grinding on the dance floor. It seems like she’s good to go, but realize that if you don’t seal the deal with her tonight, some other guy will.
With girls like these, you rarely get a second chance. If you don’t hook up with her that night, don’t think that getting her phone number and setting up a date for the near future is going to lead anywhere. When you call her, it’s likely that she won’t even remember who you are. These women are spontaneous and live in the moment. When she’s giving you the signals, the moment to capitalize is right then.
Rebound Chick. This type of female is still bruised from a relationship gone bad. Maybe the breakup occurred a week ago, or perhaps it happened years ago and she still can’t get over the guy. In any event, you’re dealing with wreckage that another man left behind. Refer to the “Ex Factor” article for specific techniques on how to set her mind straight and refocus it on you.
Just remember to be cautious. Listen sympathetically while gathering Intell. But once she’s told you the whole sad story, end that topic of discussion.
The longer you let her go on about her romantic problems, the more likely she’ll start viewing you as a “good friend” rather than a romantic partner. Once she mentally places you in that “Friend Box,” that’s where you will remain.
Drama Queen, every minor problem is a crisis. Her problems become your headaches. She has a complaint about everything and thinks everyone is trying to screw her over or stab her in the back but of course, nothing is ever her fault. She pays little attention to anyone else’s problems, including yours, but wants everyone to know about hers.
We have a rule of thumb: if we hears three different complaints from a woman within ten minutes of meeting her, we tag her as a Drama Queen and politely excuse ourselves. There’s a big difference between being a sympathetic listener and letting a woman dump her problems and drama on you, especially if she barely knows you. This type of personality is extremely difficult to deal with long-term. There will always be something new for her to complain about.
Man Haters are females that have been mistreated by men throughout their lives, probably beginning with their father. During the course of your conversation, she makes statements like “All men are dogs” or “Guys only care about one thing.” She has serious issues with men and does not trust them. Don’t argue with the Man Hater. And don’t ever give her the sense that you’re putting the moves on her, since this will only confirm her beliefs.
Consumers are females who are always asking for things but don’t reciprocate. They’re almost like low-budget Money Chicks, the difference being that Money Chicks go for much bigger scores. (They want the diamonds and the Benz, not lunch and a movie.)
When the Consumer says “thanks,” there’s usually no real gratitude behind it. She expects these things, and she typically dates weak men who tolerate this behavior. A lot of men are willing to fork over the cash because they don’t want to look cheap. But the Mack knows that the amount you spend has nothing to do with it. It’s about respect. Making constant demands on your time and wallet is a form of disrespect that the Mack does not tolerate.