I’d like to share with you some quick tips on how to approaching women tips and get phone numbers. More specifically, these tips are about how to get a girls phone number during the daytime — because every day you’ve got outstanding opportunities to meet girls that you probably aren’t capitalizing on.

You know what I’m talking about here. When’s the last time you spotted a sexy woman during the daytime that you wanted to approach and talk to, but you didn’t go for it — because you had no idea WHAT to say to her?

See, most guys fail to take action because they’re worried about what they’re going to talk about with her. Maybe this guy feels semi-comfortable with the idea of approaching women in bars, but when it comes to “day approaches,” he is simply too timid to make his move because he doesn’t know how to approaching women tips.

Advice To Approach Girls

Unfortunately, this is the case with a lot of men. Away from “social” locations like bars and parties, they just don’t feel capable of approaching women and starting conversations out of the blue.

Here’s the resolution to this predicament. I want you to stop worrying about having extended conversations with women in these situations. All you need to focus on is obtaining her name, phone number and email address, and then continuing on your way. Save the in-depth conversation for when you see her next time.

You can learn how to get a girls phone number in less than 5 minutes. And if you use this method, you’ll actually collect MORE phone numbers than you’d get by trying to talk to every girl you meet for 20 minutes and dragging out the conversation.

The more time you spend trying to chit-chat with a girl you just met, the greater the chance that she will disqualify you because you say something unwise, or you do or say something that cools off her interest in you.

To start with, you should always carry a pen and a small pad of paper with you. ALWAYS. There are a variety of reasons for doing this, and one of them is to accumulate digits from girls. Instead of taking the time to program her info into your phone, it’s smoother to hand her the paper and pen and have her write down her info for you.

Here’s how easy it can be. All you need to do is make an observation about her. Notice a particular aspect of her appearance. Maybe she’s wearing a fashionable blouse or jeans, or carrying a cool-looking purse. Or, you might notice she’s got a cool new model of cell phone.

Notice it and bring up that you’re looking to buy something similar for a friend of yours: “Hey, I noticed your _____. I need to pick out a birthday present for my friend Jennifer, and she might like something like that…where’d you get it?”

This detail that you notice can be any number of things. If you’re talking to a girl at the supermarket, you might notice an item she has in her shopping cart and say, “Pardon me, I’m having a dinner party for some friends tonight and I’m trying to figure out a dessert that I can whip up…something that’s easy to make, and that everyone will enjoy. What would you recommend?”

Want to talk to a girl at a bookstore? Use the same idea: “How’s that book you’re reading? I need to pick out a birthday gift for my friend Jennifer, and she loves to read…have you read anything lately that you can recommend?”

You let her give her answer, talk to her about it for a few minutes, and then you say, “I appreciate your advice, I’m going to go pick that up for my friend. Hey, do you have an email address? I’ll let you know if my gift gets a good reaction.”

The woman will nearly always say “yes” to this. (The “email” question is great, because everyone has email, right? Now you’re going to treat it as if she OFFERING to give you her email.)

So now you smoothly take out your pen and notepad and give them to her. Act like this is a totally natural next step.

Then, as she jots down her email address, say to her, “write down your number, too. And I didn’t get your name…”

By acting as if it’s totally normal for you to give you her information, she’ll feel perfectly okay doing so. She won’t even think twice about it.

It’s when you ASK PERMISSION for a woman’s personal info that she might think twice about it. So don’t ask permission. Just get her info.

After she gives it to you, wish her a good day and walk away. End the interaction on a positive note. You can contact her in the near future and take things to the next step.

Understanding how to approaching women tips and get phone numbers is just one of the hundreds of techniques you’ll want to know. Now, as for how you’re going to schedule this “next meet” with her, I’ve got some very strong strategies to ensure a successful outcome…

But successful conversation has nothing to do with how much you say, or how much you tell her about yourself. It has everything to do with how much she values what you are saying.  When you frame yourself as “high status,” your words, questions and statements are going to carry much more weight.

I like to use Simon Cowell as an example. I’m talking, of course, about the most popular of the judges on American Idol. (I’ll admit that I love the show I find it fascinating not because of the music, but because of all of the personalities and the dramas.)

In my opinion, the show was at its best when they had the original lineup of three judges: Randy Jackson, Paula Adbul, and Simon Cowell.

After a contestant performed their song, Randy Jackson was the first judge to give his verdict. He’s a jovial, big-hearted guy who doesn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings too badly. If the contestant sucked (as they often do), Randy will wince and squirm and try to “cushion” his criticism…

“Y’know, dawg…I dunno, tonight just wasn’t your night…you were off the hook last week, but this week (wince, shoulder shrug)…I dunno, dawg, it was…a little bit pitchy. I just wasn’t feelin’ it. But keep doing yo’ thing, dawg.”

Next up was judge Paula Abdul, the most popular airhead on prime-time television. Even after the most off-key, eardrum-splitting performance, she’d find a way to phrase her response in the positive. She’d blather on about how the contestant has such wonderful “enthusiasm,” or “energy,” or how the contestant “looked amazing tonight”…and then after rambling aimlessly for a couple of minutes, she’d come around to mentioning that “maybe tonight wasn’t your best night…I think you could have picked a better song.”

The whole time Randy and Paula were talking, everyone was anticipating the one verdict that really mattered: Judge #3 (and he’s the last judge to go, for a reason)—Simon Cowell.

Simon doesn’t pull any punches. He is the Judge Everyone Loves To Hate because he says exactly what anyone with any clue about musical ability wants to say.

If the contestant sucked, he tells them so in his blunt, authoritative British way. He uses words like “horrendous,” “unbelievably terrible,” and “absolutely awful.” The audience boos, but there is never any question that Simon’s verdict is the one that matters—because he is speaking totally honestly. (And, 99% of the time, he is totally correct.)

But when a contestant rises to the occasion, and delivers one of those kick-ass performances that is going to get 200,000 views on YouTube, Simon praises them. And this praise causes the audience to rise to its feet and go friggin’ nuts. Because Simon’s words carry that kind of power.

This is how you want to frame your interactions with women. Don’t be easy to impress. Don’t be quick to say “wow, that’s awesome” or “that’s so cool” or “yeah, I totally agree, you are so right.” Instead, challenge her to explain why she feels that way. If

You will never feel like you’re on the “hot seat” during a conversation, hoping that you are answering HER questions the right way. Instead, you will playfully DEFLECT her questions and put the spotlight back on her—so that she is the one who feels

Remember, you must cultivate the right presence when you are around women, with the same level of care as women style themselves when they want to attract a man. You want her to get the sense that you are a man with high social status.

Final Checklist When Approaching Women

Before you head out to put these high-powered tactics into action, make sure you’ve got these bases covered:

Take an extra-long hot shower. Use shampoo and body wash to clean every inch of your body. You might be getting intimate with a woman later. Be ready!

Spray on some nice-smelling cologne.

Brush your teeth and floss.

Style your hair.

Groom your eyebrows and make sure to trim any unsightly hair (i.e. in your ears and nostrils).

Dress well. “Stylishly casual” is a look that always works: a cool pair of jeans, trendy sneakers or shoes, and a cool tee-shirt or button-down. If you carry some extra weight, wear a loose-fitting shirt to downplay it.

Tidy up your place. Make sure the bathroom is especially clean. Always have a couple of bottles of wine (red and white) ready to entertain female company later. Again, this is about you feeling ready and prepared for whatever happens tonight when you are out meeting women.

Get ready to have fun. You’re going to bring playful, fun, positive energy into the lives of all women that you meet tonight. And maybe if one of them is lucky, she’ll become a part of your world and enjoy a lot of cool new experiences.

“Rejection” is a thing of the past. Any girl that doesn’t want to hop onboard YOUR train is missing out on the ride of her life.

“Are you by any chance a dancer? Because you move with such grace and confidence, you have to be professionally trained. Who’s your teacher?” If she says she’s not a dancer, follow up with: “Well, I bet if we get you in a club that’s a different story.”

Or…

You: “How high are those heels?”

Her: (answer)

You: “Wow, you know, you really know how to walk in them. Most women are so clumsy and uncoordinated. It’s such a lost art. Good to know there are still some women around who know how to do it right. Did you have to go to charm school for that? How’d you learn?”

Another good one: if her arms are crossed, indicating that she doesn’t want to be approached, approach anyway and say this:

“Is everything OK? You look so closed-off with your arms crossed liked that. You’d look so much friendlier if you uncrossed them.”

This will usually get her to uncross her arms. (She’ll do so, without even thinking about it.) Once you get her to “open up” her body language, her attitude will follow. Follow up with another observation and get the conversation started.

Observations are an excellent way to get the conversation started. This is an example of creating original conversations, instead of just engaging her in “fluff talk” that goes nowhere.

As things begin to flow, another great technique is to use emotional anchors. Get her to associate the things you are talking about with positive, exciting, or romantic feelings. Encourage her to express her emotions.

So how did you spend your day?

Oh, I went for a run.

Does running make you feel good?

Yes.

I know what you mean. There’s something about being outdoors and exercising that makes you feel awesome. You get your blood pumping, your brain releases endorphins, you can be having the worst day and then some exercise can totally brighten your mood…you feel like you can conquer anything, you know what I mean?

Talking To Women

I had the most amazing meal tonight (mention what you ate)…so what did you have for dinner?

Nothing special, I just made some pasta (or whatever)…

Is that one of your specialties?

Not really. I’m not much of a cook.

Well, what if you had your own personal chef? What would you have him cook for you when you really want a special treat?

The “personal chef” question is an example of a Hypothetical. (The Mack Tactics program contains many of these in the “Conversation Control” chapter.) Basically, a Hypothetical is an unusual, thought-provoking “hypothetical question” that you pose to her. A good one will get her to share and reveal things about herself, and then give you an opportunity to “bond” with her by sharing things about your self.

Hypotheticals can also emotionally “transport” her to another place, by stimulating her imagination. Here are some examples of boring, typical (“wack”) questions that guys frequently ask women, followed by some cool new Hypotheticals that I’ve been using recently:

Wack: So where you do you like to hang out?

Mack: My buddy Jim is coming up on his first anniversary with his girlfriend, and he wants to do something special and romantic. So let’s say you’re dating a guy, and he’s going to take you on the ultimate first-anniversary date. Not necessarily something super-expensive, but something you’ll always remember. Describe to me how that date would go.”

After she answers, get her to expand on her answer. Get her to speak in emotional terms. What it is about that place that she associates with romance? You can emotionally “transport” her to an extremely positive mental state this way.

Wack: “So what kind of music do you like?”

To this, she’ll usually say “all kinds” or something to that effect…typical question, typical answer, and you’re not getting anywhere.

Mack: “I read this crazy story in the news today. Some super-rich banker guy hired The Jonas Brothers (or Hannah Montana, or some other hot “teen” act) to play at his daughter’s 16th birthday party, and paid them a million bucks to play for only 45 minutes. Can you believe that?”

This stuff actually happens, by the way. A few years ago, some filthy rich businessman hired 50 Cent, Aerosmith, Tom Petty, Stevie Nicks, and Kenny G to play at his 13-year-old daughter’s bat mitzvah in New York City. The tab for the party? $10 million.

Then follow up by saying, “so let me ask you a question. If you wanted to throw the most unbelievable party of all time for you and your friends, and you had unlimited money to hire any band in the world, who would you pick?”

When she answers, get her to keep sharing: “So what do you think is their most amazing song?”

Talking about her favorite music is bound to put her in a positive mood (which is essential for building your bond with her). Have your own answers ready to go, and be ready to share your own feelings about why your favorite music is so special to you. Relate a story about why that performer, or that band, has special significance to you. Paint a picture for her. Speak in emotional terms.

The bottom line is, it’s way more fun, creative and interesting to make observations, rather than use the standard “job interview” approach. (So what’s your name? Where are you from? What do you do? Do you come here often? BORING…)

I also like to make “guesses” about women. Instead of “where are you from,” you could say “I get the sense that you’re not from around here, originally. You’ve got this sophisticated, big-city vibe.” (Or, “you’ve got this innocent quality about you…I bet you’re from a tiny little town somewhere.”)

If you’re completely wrong about your guess, that’s OK! It’s going to make her laugh, she’ll want to know more about why you made that guess, and then she’ll fill you in on you her actual details.

If she is obviously from a foreign country, you could ask her where she is from, originally, and then say “So if I visit there someday, what’s the one spot I absolutely need to visit?” Get her to describe it. The conversation should emotionally transport her there.

In the Mack Tactics program, I cover every angle of managing conversations and guiding them towards the results you want. For now, remember, interesting observations and questions (such as Hypotheticals) make her want to come up with good, interesting answers. When you are controlling the flow of the conversation and the topics this way, you are taking the “dominant” role in the interaction—and this implies confidence and status.

Clever stuff. Just remember, knowing how to use these openers to transition into the conversation, and keep things flowing, is the key. Check out Mack Tactics to completely master your conversation game.

The very first words that come out of your mouth are not the most important ones. As I said before, if you project confidence and a laidback, playful attitude, you could get away with simply saying, “You’re cute” or “I noticed you earlier and I want to meet you.”

A good way to do this is to make another observation that encourages her to keep thinking and talking. After your opener, depending on how she’s dressed, how she carries herself, and the way she responds to your initial observation, you might say:

“You have this really confident vibe, you seem very sure of yourself. You remind me of my friend Jennifer. I bet a lot of guys are intimidated when they first meet you, but they don’t realize you’re actually a sweet person.”

“You’ve got a really positive energy about you. I bet your friends are always calling you up when they’re depressed about something and they need a boost.”

“You have a cool sense of style. You must always be keeping up on the latest trends. So let me ask you something…my buddy Jeff wants me to help give him a fashion makeover. What do you think is the #1 thing that a guy can do, to make himself look more stylish?”

“You have a really unique look. It’s refreshing to meet someone who isn’t just trying to copy the way every else dresses. So have you always been this way?”

The Art of Approaching

“Are you by any chance a dancer? Because you move with such grace and confidence, you have to be professionally trained. Who’s your teacher?” If she says she’s not a dancer, follow up with: “Well, I bet if we get you in a club that’s a different story.”

Or…

You: “How high are those heels?”

Her: (answer)

You: “Wow, you know, you really know how to walk in them. Most women are so clumsy and uncoordinated. It’s such a lost art. Good to know there are still some women around who know how to do it right. Did you have to go to charm school for that? How’d you learn?”

Another good one: if her arms are crossed, indicating that she doesn’t want to be approached, approach anyway and say this:

“Is everything OK? You look so closed-off with your arms crossed liked that. You’d look so much friendlier if you uncrossed them.”

This will usually get her to uncross her arms. (She’ll do so, without even thinking about it.) Once you get her to “open up” her body language, her attitude will follow. Follow up with another observation and get the conversation started.

Observations are an excellent way to get the conversation started. This is an example of creating original conversations, instead of just engaging her in “fluff talk” that goes nowhere.

As things begin to flow, another great technique is to use emotional anchors. Get her to associate the things you are talking about with positive, exciting, or romantic feelings. Encourage her to express her emotions.

So how did you spend your day?

Oh, I went for a run.

Does running make you feel good?

Yes.

I know what you mean. There’s something about being outdoors and exercising that makes you feel awesome. You get your blood pumping, your brain releases endorphins, you can be having the worst day and then some exercise can totally brighten your mood…you feel like you can conquer anything, you know what I mean?

Another example…

I had the most amazing meal tonight (mention what you ate)…so what did you have for dinner?

Nothing special, I just made some pasta (or whatever)…

Is that one of your specialties?

Not really. I’m not much of a cook.

Well, what if you had your own personal chef? What would you have him cook for you when you really want a special treat?

The “personal chef” question is an example of a Hypothetical. The Mack Tactics program contains many of these in the “Conversation Control” chapter. Basically, a Hypothetical is an unusual, thought-provoking “hypothetical question” that you pose to her. A good one will get her to share and reveal things about herself, and then give you an opportunity to “bond” with her by sharing things about your self. Hypotheticals can also emotionally “transport” her to another place, by stimulating her imagination.

The logic behind this is that you want to make your move before any anxiety or nervousness sets in.

I usually don’t move this fast. I like to take a few moments to gather some quick Intell.

I watch her and notice details. Is there something about her appearance that I can use to initiate the conversation?

Maybe she’s wearing an interesting piece of jewelry, or is carrying a cool purse, or has a tattoo, or is wearing a hip pair of glasses or sunglasses. It can be anything that is even the slightest bit out of the ordinary.

If she’s with friends, I watch her body language and how she interacts with them. Is she the “leader of her tribe,” the one that the others are watching and listening to? Or is she blending into the background?

This is important Intell for when you use “Cold Reads” later, when you’re talking to her. These are observations that you make about a person, that make them think that you’re extremely perceptive and understand their personality.

Starting conversations with women isn’t difficult, but maintaining their interest is. When interacting with the opposite sex, most guys run out of steam before they even get going. They introduce themselves without even trying to use a creative conversation starter, babble a bunch of random statements, and endure the painful awkward silences that follow.

Does this sound familiar to you? The good news is that talking to women doesn’t have to be burdensome, and in truth, it can be a lot of fun! The trick to catching and keeping a girl’s interest is simple…listen. Most guys waste so much energy worrying about what to say, but in reality, women’s answers to their questions could provide for ample conversation.

Be a Funny Guy

Unless you’ve been living under a rock your entire life, you should know that everyone especially women love being entertained. If you can make a girl laugh, you’re already on her good side. With that said, go into the dating scene with a few funny stories about your life, and find ways to share them with the women you’re approaching.

If you don’t think you have any funny stories, think again. Everybody can recall times in their past that were embarrassing or memorable, so make sure you have at least four of these tales to share with the women you approach. Being able to laugh at yourself will lighten the mood and build rapport with the opposite sex.

For your convenience, I’ve included the following format to help you craft a great story. You’re welcome. As you’ll notice, the setup is similar to what you’ll hear in a good joke:

• You are the main character.

• Make sure to demonstrate appealing character traits, such as confidence or courage.

• The tone of your story should be light and funny.

• See to it that the ending or “punch line” is interesting and memorable.

If you’re smart, you won’t improve these stories on the spot. Practice makes perfect, so take the time to perfect your storytelling prior to hitting the social scene. Try them out of family or friends, and see what they’re reactions are.

Go Fishing

Remember when I mentioned the importance of listening? If you keep your ears open while talking to a woman instead of just staring at her chest you can literally “fish” for additional topics of conversation.

Ask questions about her background, hobbies, or career, and use her answers to find a common ground with her. Not only will this demonstrate your compatibility with her, but it will show her that you’re genuinely interested.

If something she says lends itself to a funny story you have, all the better! The point is to be relatable to the women you approach, thereby building rapport with them. People are naturally drawn to others like them, and the more a woman feels like you understand her, the more she’ll be attracted to you.

Talking to women shouldn’t be a painful experience…if you know what you’re doing. By arming yourself with some good stories and an open ear, any woman will be putty in your hands. Practice these tips every time you hit the dating market, and say goodbye to awkward silences forever.

We’ve all heard about being “cocky and funny,” or “confident and funny,” or variations thereof. This article is going to start you on a path to meeting more women, the beginning to all your action. It’s called Tease to Please.

Tease to Please works because when you talk to women because it short-circuits her usual defense mechanisms to meeting ’strange’ men. You see, every woman comes with her factory-installed defense mechanism against meeting new guys.

When a guy approaches her, for any reason, she assumes you’re picking up on her. It’s what she’s gotten used to. All women are by now, and they all have a standard routine of being a little stand-offish to you until you bust past this barrier.

In my opinion, you have 3 seconds from spotting a woman to when you approach her and say something to engage her interest. If you wait longer, your opportunity window closes faster than Ticketmaster can sell out Britney Spears tickets.

In that 3 seconds, you do this:

Look her over, and spot something about her appearance that you can comment on.

Start with her shoes, and work your way up. DO NOT choose a physical body trait (like big earlobes, bubble-butt, giant breasts) to comment on. Especially not her overall attractiveness.

You find ONE thing that you can key off of and say something about that will give you and inroad.

This is your ANCHOR. Once you’ve found it, you comment on it to her and smile at her, making strong eye contact.

Flattery is the scream for approval of the desperate guy. It’s like cotton candy sweet for a split second, but disappears almost immediately. You want to dangle the PROMISE in front of her first.

You *almost* convey a look of inconvenience, that you went out of your way to comment on her alligator-skin shoes, or her denim skirt. The less she thinks you approached her out of sexual interest, the lower her guard is.

Don’t be insulting! Just be mysterious and ambiguous.

From here, you will bridge into the Tease portion of the conversation, and we’ll cover that in the next installment. All there really is left to do is to keep her engaged in the conversation for just a minute or two, show some confidence, and walk away with her phone number.

Now, the typical question I get is “What if there’s nothing out of the ordinary about her?”

Simple: You make something up. There is ALWAYS something you can find when you look, and if it’s not readily apparent, you make it up. If she’s got clothes on (and even here in San Francisco, they still wear clothes) you can find something to pick out.

I recommend looking for jewelry, because every woman takes a lot of thought in selecting her jewelry.

For especially attractive women, you need to come on a bit differently, and it pays to use a combination of the negative-hit with this. I even recommend that when you get used to this technique, you use it exclusively on the hotties.

When you’re comfortable with it, it makes more impact.

You say just one thing, and it’s so easy you’ll have a tough time forgetting it:

“Your dress/shoes/blouse/jacket/purse (whatever) caught my eye. I like the style, but I think you should try it in black, instead. You’d look better with it in black instead of gray.” (Choose the color accordingly.)

You nod your head, again meeting her eyes full-on.

Her head will suddenly spin … “But… but… all the other guys said I looked like a fashion model with this on… What do you mean?”

By using these approaches when you talk to women, you’ve just flipped her trust switch in her head. You see, she starts out needing to find a reason to be interested and trust YOU or she quickly categorizes you as a friend (FRIEND = non-lover, a woman you won’t be able to sleep with).

If you just start talking to her neutrally, she’s wondering, “Is he safe?” For all she knows, you’re a nut-case looking to pull her into a multi-level marketing scheme. NOW, all of a sudden, she is suddenly told (by your words and actions) that you might not be so interested. You’re different – i.e., INTERESTING to her.

For the first week or so, if you’re feeling a bit nervous about approaching women, work your way into this slowly. Just use the intro line I gave you, and take it wherever you need. Hell, I’d even recommend you ONLY ask her the first part (”Where’d you get xxxx, my sister might like that …”), then say “thanks” and walk away.

Get used to just chatting up anyone and everyone you meet. Take the pressure off for the first week or two, until you get used to the fact that WOMEN AREN’T GOING TO REJECT YOU LIKE YOU THINK THEY WILL.

You don’t need anything fancy or clever. You don’t need anything special to comment on. You just take WHATEVER she is wearing or holding and comment on it AS IF IT WERE different or interesting.

 Then, by virtue of following it up with a quick tease, you get her mind off her initial defense (IS HE SAFE?) and on to validating herself a little to you.

This is the primary psychological underpinning of the whole “TEASE TO PLEASE” method. And I just gave it to you in a simple, workable format.

What most guys will do is to spend all their energy trying to climb over her initial trust hurdle, when they really need to focus on getting her to flip that switch in her head by making HER the one to present herself to you.

Most guys will take any approach and shoot it down and find everything they can about what’s WRONG with it, before they will go out and use it and make it work. My advice to you is to prove it won’t before you even think about coming back to me with a rebuttal. I know that I’ll get scads of letters asking me what to do in X situation or Y situation, because they’re ‘different’ somehow, but it makes NO difference. You only have to spot one anchor on her to comment about.

I use it all the time, and it is very effective.

Just remember to keep things light and humorous, and never to insult.

ANYTHING can work, if you just use it in the right way. I just gave you the first half of a technique that works ANYWHERE, ANYTIME.

On ANY woman. The best part about it is that it is simple, universal, and effective. All you have to do is to find your target, find an anchor, and start your Tease … (but only to please…)

It’s been said that 20% of how the humans interact is via words, and about 80% is the non-verbal part: body gestures, voice tone, voice pitch, and eye contact. So, you need to know how to control these aspects of your game.

Body Language – Whenever women are watching, you should move in a slow, relaxed manner. Push your chest out a bit and lift your chin so it is parallel to the floor.

Remember before, when I talked about how our “primal brains” register signals? Well, we’re programmed to hide our throats when we are feeling scared or nervous it’s a defensive posture.

Guys who are nervous around women tend to do this. And women “read” this body language as being weak. Approach them this way, and their stress levels will instinctively rise. They’re looking for a guy who makes them feel safe and secure in their presence, not a guy who looks like he is trying to avoid a beating.

Also, use open body language: keep your hands out of your pockets and don’t hold a drink against your chest. (Guys do this all the time in bars, without consciously realizing how “closed off” they seem to other people. When a woman reads you as “closed,” she’s going to think that you’re nervous and uncomfortable not a good look!)

BONUS BODY LANGUAGE TIP: When you approach a girl and talk to her, notice her body language and watch for changes. It can go from closed to receptive, and then you’ll know you are making progress and moving things in the right direction.

Women have “alpha” behaviors of their own that they display when they are trying to attract a mate. Is she pushing her chest out slightly, making her breasts more presentable? Is she showing off cleavage? Another sign of interest is when a woman exposes her palms or wrists to you.

She might do this while sitting across from you; she could be gently stroking the stem of her wine glass. This is strong “open” body language, meaning she trusts you and is inviting you in. (This is a great time to gently take her hand in yours and do a palm read.)

Is she doing anything with her hair: flipping it back, touching it, running her fingers through it? Does she straighten up her clothes in any way as you are talking to her? Or, maybe she excuses herself to go the bathroom, and when she comes back, you can tell that she fixed herself up and applied some lip gloss. This type of “preening” behavior (birds do this, too) is another signal that she is trying to attract you as a mate.

The most obvious sign of her interest is if she touches you or playfully “hits” you when you make a joke or tease her. (This is one reason why you want to tease her to invite her touch.) This is an uncontrolled sexual response; she is acting in these ways subconsciously. These mating behaviors are hard-wired into us.

Don’t be discouraged if she displays closed body language at first (crossing her arms, pursing her lips, etc.) This is probably the behavior she shows to any guy who approaches her out of the blue. You can “break down” her defenses by using the techniques in this article, and as her body language shifts from closed to open, you’ll know that they are working.

Tone of Voice – This is another important part of an effective approach. Ideally, your voice should be low and bass. (Whatever you think of Vin Diesel’s abilities as an actor, women find the guy very sexy. I came to realize that Vin’s voice, not his muscles, is his most attractive quality.The guy sounds like he has gravel stuck in his throat, and he speaks slowwwwwly. It’s sort of an extreme example, but I want to point out that a low, deep voice is a powerfully attractive quality because it suggests high testosterone.

If you have a high-pitched voice, work on it. Make it a habit to speak slower and inject pauses. Of course, if you’re talking about boring stuff and asking predictable questions, speaking slowly and using pauses will only cause her to find a way to excuse herself but if you combine this technique with effective conversation, as the Mack Tactics program explains, you’ll have women hanging on your every word.

Eye Contact – Eye Contact is another powerful tool for conveying confidence, and making a woman feel sexual attraction. It may be the difference between getting the girl or not. Imagine you’re James Bond, looking at the girl. You should be slightly smiling, signaling that you are not dangerous, while looking in a deep way, minimizing your eyes a bit.

Smile – Always smile when opening. Don’t attempt to look serious and “cool.” If you need to walk from a short distance to approach the girl, smile as you make your way towards her and maintain eye contact.

Example: You’re waiting in line at the supermarket. You’re only purchasing a couple of items. There are people in front of you with fully loaded shopping carts.

If you were to ask the people in front of you, “Can I cut in front of you?”, you’d be likely to get a bunch of dirty looks and no one would budge.

Instead, try saying, “Excuse me, but I’d like to pay for my two items really quickly, because my car is double-parked outside.”

Chances are, they’ll go along with your request. No problem. It’s a funny quirk of human nature that when we provide a logical reason, and our request sounds reasonable enough, people tend to accept it without.

The same principle can be used when approaching and talking to women.

The Wrong Way: “Do you mind if I ask you something?”

The Right Way: “Hey, I’d love to know where you got that ring, because my friend Jennifer’s birthday is coming up and I’m trying to pick out a cool gift…”

Or, when getting her phone number…

The Wrong Way: “So, can I have your phone number?”

The Right Way: (as you take your phone out of your pocket and start typing in her name) “I should get your number, because there’s a party coming up that I know you and your friends would love to go to.”

Or, when you want to take her back to your place…

The Wrong Way: “Do you want to come back to my place?”

The Right Way: “Let’s go back to my place, because I want to show you that (fill in the blank) we talked about.”

The “reason” you attach to “because” could be anything interesting, or something you talked about earlier. The important thing is that you provide a concrete reason for her to follow along with your suggestion, and use the word “because” to set it up.

In most cases, people go out of their way to avoid tension, and for good reason.

When you talk to girls, however, the opposite is true. I’m speaking, of course, about sexual tension. If your love life is struggling and it’s not easy for you to talk to girls, odds are you’ve never heard of this phenomenon, or maybe you have heard of it, but are clueless as to how it works.

In either case, you should pay close attention to this article. The sooner you grasp the concept of using tension to aid your seduction efforts, the sooner you will be unstoppable.

What is Sexual Tension?

Have you ever wanted someone you couldn’t have? Maybe you thought a girl liked you, but weren’t completely positive. After all, she did flirt with you, but on the other hand, she gets chummy with other guys too.

All of these and more are just some examples of sexual tension. When you use this seduction technique to talk to girls, it has been dubbed many things from teasing to playing hard-to-get, but its end goal is always the same…to elevate the level of attraction. When used effectively, a man and a woman never know what’s coming next, thereby keeping any interactions between them fun and interesting.

What Sexual Tension is Not

It’s a universal law of economics (yes, I’m referring to money) which states that the more available an item is, the less it will cost. In other words, if a supply is plentiful, people won’t have (or want) to pay as much for it. On the contrary, if a supply is scarce, its value skyrockets.

You may be wondering what a crash course in economic theory has to do with dating, and the answer is a lot. People always want what they can’t have; that’s just human nature. Speaking in terms of seduction, how can a girl miss you if you’re always in her face? You’ve left no mystery, and therefore, no sexual tension.

Play Hard-to-Get

Playing hard-to-get is a game that, if done correctly, can get you exactly what you want. If she calls, let the voice machine pick up, and don’t call her back right away.

If she suggests you two go out, don’t immediately agree to the date and time. Give off the illusion that you have a jam-packed life, and you are fitting her into it. Just remember that being too distant can kill your chances all together.

Be a Tease

While you should never demean another person, teasing when you talk to girls can be the key to creating healthy sexual tension. Joke around at the silly things she says, and even give her a nickname. Don’t kiss her right away, but instead, make her wait and wonder what you’re thinking. Girls do this to guys all the time, and it works wonders.

Be Confident (Not Cocky)

True confidence is secure in and of itself, and it does not feel the need to boast.

Arrogant people think they’re coming off as confident, but others can see right through them. When dealing with women, don’t hesitate to speak about your accomplishments, but don’t go into overkill either. Instead, learn about her life as well, and be receptive to what she has to say. Confidence is the key to sexual attraction, and it will make her want you even more.

Have a Sense of Humor

Laughter (like oysters) is an aphrodisiac, as it releases “feel-good” hormones within the human brain.

If you can manage to make a girl laugh, you stand an excellent chance of getting on her good side. On that same note, have the ability to laugh at yourself as well.

When you talk to girls and it comes to telling jokes, don’t overdo it, or you risk coming off as insincere in her eyes. In addition, know when to not joke as well.

Most women are very empathetic creatures, so picking fun at other people, for example, is a surefire way of turning them off.

Find the right mix of humor and seriousness, and you’ve got the golden ticket to sexual tension and attraction.

Summed up, sexual tension is creating a need without immediately satisfying it. You’re increasing your value in the eyes of the opposite sex.

Whether you’re seducing a woman for the first time, or have been in a relationship for years, sexual tension works for every occasion.

Use the tools in this article, and you will make her want you until she can’t stand it anymore!

You can also include a Tease in your Flirt Opener or a minute or two into the conversation to spice things up and create some sexual tension. By the way, the word “tension” is normally not a good thing; it means the situation is uncomfortable. Sexual tension is different. It means there is electricity in the air.

She’s curious about you, but she’s not sure if you like her. Or, you’ve been flirting with her and building body contact, and she wants the contact to escalate but you ease back and stop touching her for a while.

This makes her want your touch more. Or, you’ve engaged her in a conversation and she assumes you’re interested in her, but then you make an offhand comment that makes her think maybe she’s not your type. (Which will make her want to prove to you that she is desirable, and you should want her.)

That’s sexual tension, or as I also call it, using “push-pull” to drive up her attraction.

Here are some comments you can make to build this tension. They should be spoken in a playful manner:

 (To a tall girl) “I’m not usually into short girls, but you are really sexy.”

(To a short girl) “I’m not really into tall girls, but there’s something about you I find very attractive.”

“You’re really sexy and really cool, but I bet you are horrible in bed.”

“You’re sexy, but I can tell you’re not a very good kisser.”

“Oh, you’re from the Midwest? So you must be a total prude.”

“I love those shoes…if we end up having sex tonight, you are leaving those on.”

“You’re really cute, but I can already tell you’re too much of a nice girl for me.”

“You’re from the South? Okay, so you probably still have a funny 1950s attitude towards boys and sex, right?”

“You’re so cool, but we could never be boyfriend-girlfriend. It would last exactly one month…maybe two…and it’d be nothing but fights and makeup sex.”

“It’s probably a good thing we don’t live in the same city. We’d be having sex, like, 5 times a day. How would I get any work done?”